RELATIONSHIPS

People love a person in uniform and firefighters are at the top of that list. While most firefighters can start a new relationship with ease, some may lack the knowledge of how to turn it into a more meaningful partnership beyond the initial stage. We focus not only on dating and marriage but also on the relationships that firefighters have with other family members, friends and fellow firefighters.

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Comparison: The Joy Thief

Mark Twain said it best: “Comparison is the death of joy.”  This sentiment has roots that stretch back to Biblical times, yet comparing ourselves, our families and our career successes to those around us can be a hard habit to break. 

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HI, HONEY. HOW WAS YOUR SHIFT?

By Sarah Divine Talk with your partner and ask them if they are open to listening to you talk about your bad days. Are you able to go home to your significant other and share the bad days with them? Is that something that you would like to do? Do you want to be held …

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REFLECTIONS AND IRRITATIONS

If you are willing to look at yourself, acknowledge where a change needs to happen and make the change, your perception of life will dramatically increase for the better. I sat there reading my response to the text that I was just about to send. Then, it hit me. I was replying the exact same …

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THE FIRE SEX TRADITION

We all want high quality, high frequency sex with our partners. There are some deep-rooted traditions in the fire department, such as the Maltese cross, shiny red fire trucks and, of course, Dalmatians. Some departments have specific traditions that only they keep and embrace. But one tradition that may or may not be as common is: …

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LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH

While being vulnerable emotionally can be as nerve-wracking as an emergency scenario, it is mandatory to stay close with your other half. The news is scary. The constant Hollywood movie headlines seem like fiction, not real-life. So, what does a pandemic mean for the relationships of firefighters? We still need to eat, exercise, save members …

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IN-LAWS: DO THEY FIRE UP OR DAMPEN YOUR MARRIAGE?

Everyone must know when to set limits but still make it clear that they desire a close and loving relationship. Firefighting is stressful work but developing and maintaining a good rapport with your in-laws may prove to be just as stressful, only on a different level. Some research suggests that there may be a reason …

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I COULD AGREE WITH YOU, BUT THEN WE’D BOTH BE WRONG

In the heat of an argument, disagreeing with the person you’re arguing with sometimes adds to their motivation to argue further. Arguments can sometimes get intense. They sometimes result in a misunderstanding that creates conflict among people close to you — your family members, your partner, your friends or your co-workers. As a result, this …

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UNTIL IT DOESN’T

The beauty of the camaraderie, dark humor and fire station joking is that it effortlessly builds resilience. Until it doesn’t.  Everyone wants to feel like they belong. It’s a human drive to feel like you are connected to a group and a part of something bigger than yourself. In many ways, it is this sense of …

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